Replacement dog

Hi,

After 9 wonderful years with my best friend he passed away on Saturday. I am completely destroyed and the only thing that's getting me through is the thought of getting a new dog.

I would like to get a dog as close to Bruce as possible. He was a very large tan and white staffy, the most gentle soul and wierdly a total coward.

Is it a mistake to get another dog the same colour and if not does the colour have much to do with the dogs personality?

Any help much appreciated.

Paul

Hi Paul, so sorry to hear of your loss.


 I'm not sure colour has anything to do with personality. I don't think getting a new dog the same colour as Bruce would be a mistake, it is totally up to you. Sometimes it can be good to have a new dog that reminds you of your old dog, other people like to have a completely different colour new dog. 

I'm sure you will find a new pal and give them a happy life.

We are here if you ever want to talk about Bruce or your new dog x

Hi Paul, and welcome to the group.

I'll be absolutely honest and say that you will never replace Bruce. Looking for a dog that will fit his shoes exactly will, I fear, end in disappointment as you will always be measuring your new dog against him.

Each dog is an individual. Each dog has his own unique blend of traits. There are so many fab dogs out there, be it puppy or rescue dog, that are brilliant in their own way. Find one who you can love for who he is himself. You will always love Bruce for who he was and will love your new dog for who he is.

If you're looking for a rescue, you'll be spoilt for choice and will also be doing a wonderful dog a good turn.

Good luck in your search.

Hi Paul, welcome to the forum from Flo & me.

So sorry to read of your loss, it must still be terribly raw for you right now.

There is no reason for you not to get another companion but as Liz has said above, they are all different but hold the same traits so you won't find one that fills Bruce's shoes exactly but will find one as loving and loyal I'm sure.

I got another Staffy after many years in between and the similarity is uncanny between the two, from looks to mannerisms but they are definitely not the same.

Colour makes no difference at all, good luck in your search

Thank you all, I am totally broken and filled sadness for the things I will never do again with my friend.

You guys are right, my thoughts were to go straight out and buy an identical looking dog and hope he would fill the hole Bruce left.

Now I think I will wait till the pain eases off a bit.

Kind regards

Paul

im so sorry for ur loss i believe the pain lessens it never disappears as above take ur time we will be here for support and advice ..

Hi and welcome to the forum from me and the zoo xx

So sorry for your loss. I thas been a year since I said goodbye to my best friend and I still couldn't even think of having another dog. BUT each human is different, the same as each dog is different. You will never be able to replace your boy but giving a staffy (especially a rescue one) is an amazing thing to do.

Good luck in your search! We're all here to support

Hi Paul. Firstly I am SO very sorry for your recent loss, I bet Bruce was an amazing loyal companion. I don't think colour has anything to do with personality (could be coincidence if it does exist) but only you can decide on what colour & when the time is right for you, I am sure you are very raw right now. We are always here for support/friendship, I hope you take the time you need to grieve and know Bruce has crossed the rainbow bridge with the best memories of a wonderful life you gave him. Look after yourself x (PS great choice considering another staffy!!! )

Thank you all so much, everything you posted helped more than you know.



Bruce last year at the beach.

Paul

There is a fantastic support network here & plenty of advice from all walks of life and different situations, call on it as often as you need it. Wow Bruce is gorgeous !!! x

What a handsome beautiful boy Bruce was xx

So sorry of you loss of Bruce he was unique, as they all are individual and all loving in there own way, time is a slow healer but Bruce will never be forgotten. When time is right for you you will find another fur baby to love. Our thoughts are with you from me and Blue.

So sorry to hear Bruce is no longer with you Paul. He's absolutely gorgeous!

I hope you find support and understanding here in the forum. Everyone here is really lovely and share great advice!

I'm so sorry for your loss and thank you for sharing Bruce's pic with us - what a handsome chap

Hi Paul, so sorry for your loss. I too lost one of my dogs in January and it feels bloody awful. But I will say it gets better as time goes by. Give yourself a few weeks to grieve, it is important to grieve.


When you start to feel a bit better is the time to start looking, not while you still feel very sad. You will find colour will be irrelevant and you will be drawn to a dog for it's personality. You will find a new friend soon and will be able to remember Bruce with a smile on your face.

Hello Paul, I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Bruce. I know exactly what you are feeling as we lost our lovely Mason 15 months ago due to epilepsy, he was not even 6 years old, and the hurt has faded but I still miss him and think about him often.
We waited 4 months before we got another, and he is a similar colour but quite a different character.
You will know when the time is right for you to get another dog, it won't replace Bruce, but it will be rewarding.