Seperation Anxeiety

hi there my partner and i have lucy but lucy has become really attached too myself when i go out anywhere even for 5minutes she pines and wrecks alot off stuff she is really naughty but when i am about she is the most perfect dog im currently back at my parents and its driving them crazy i need some help on too stop this i love her too bits but it needs too stop i dont let her get away with anything i just give her cuddles now and then. i have tried everything but she still wants her dad all the time im not wanting too get rid off her at all i just need some guidence as this is my first staffy and im stuck at what too do next.



thanks


Grant

hi
im no expert but ive recently had this problem with George - he wanted me all the time even though others in the household were feeding him, playing with him and training him.
hed been used to going in a cage at night but we dont have room for one so bedtime was a worry . he was 8 months when we had him and luckily had been trained not to go upstairs or i would have been glued to him 24/7
he tore up the carpet and rugs in the kitchen then started eating his bed but we found out that if we left the kitchen door open he would be more settled - it was being closed in a room that was freaking him out
another big problem was walkies - whilst most doge are over excited and raring to go he refused point blank to go with anyone but me
thankfully , with a lot of patience a pocket full of biccies and my son chancing being accused of cruelty physically dragging a dog along the pavement , he now goes quite tidy (after i push him out the door lol)
so , in my experience with George the key is patience
i was advised not to make a big deal of leaving him even only saying "be a good boy" - i just put on my coat and went
it also helps if theres a toy or other distraction to keep her mind off you when youre gone ...she will eventually learn that you do come back every time
being at your parents house could be making her worried that youre going to leave her there- she just needs some time to settle
hope ive helped a little
kath

Hi have you tried letting your parents feed her or take her on some walks to get them included in her daily routine ?? this may help her respond to them more when your away from the house

This can be a real problem when you're living with it. The key is little and often and gradually build the separation time. Never make a fuss on leaving, quietly go about putting your coat on and leave.

Kath makes a great point about being in a small space. When we first brought Flo home it took at least 2 weeks for us to work out where She wanted to be. We tried the kitchen but she was over the baby gate as soon as look at it. The stairs was the same and in fact I thought it so dangerous for her that I removed the gate almost as soon as I'd put it up. In the end we let her have the run of the house but not the bed rooms and she settled on my expensive Sofa.

Tracy also makes a good point, the more people that feed, walk & interact with her the less reliant on you she should be.

Do let us know how you get on.

Please let us know how you get on it isnt easy leave the dog for 5 mins and gradually build it up had to do same with my own dog good luck

Alot of good Ideas to try above also try leaving an old shirt of yours in her bed this may help with your scent on it.

Cheers