Friends

ok you have had friends all fell out & some call your other friend & say they going damage to the place we all meant to love and enjoy being at.

would you

A) be friend with them all (turn an blind eye of what they have said)

or

B) stop being friends with the ones that are calling your other friend and the place you love and enjoy being at

bump

Depending on how bad the situation, I would probably go with B. I don't have time for drama and if people are going to try and hurt me that's their own fault, and they can deal with the circumstances! But if things can be worked out I might try and stay on speaking terms with them!

It's a difficult one, sometimes things get broken beyond repair sometimes things can be fixed. It depends how close the friendship or relationship is,

Ask yourself: Do I enjoy being/chatting with this person? Make sure to be honest with yourself. Do you truthfully enjoy time with this person? If you don't, that's a sign that the friendship might not be great.

Have closure. End your friendship, but still continue being acquaintances. You and your friend may become better friends after a break. Don't get discouraged though, continue on with your life and enjoy every minute of it.

I find personally I don't like people that cause be upset, so I remove these people from my inner circle, but it is a very personal choice.

it all depends on the situation at which the things were said. It's very easy to say things you dont really mean at all in the heat of an argument.
just ask yourself do you in your heart think they meant what they said or was it an over reation in a heated exchanage that came out with no real thought behind it?
if it is a long running feud id say B because some thought may have done into it. if it was a flash argument id say A as it sounds like something someone would say when they are deeply hurt and would later regret.

this not about me for you all.. would you damage your friendship with someone to talk with other people?

then your answer would be A if you wouldn't then it be B

your friends who spend hour a day, years doing somethings, having his/her work put down is not going like it how friendly you are with scumbags after what they did & say, this friend is always going question if you are an real friend. and this friend will think you only sticking around becasue your friend dont have anywhere better to go

am i right or wrong this is why i did this poll.

i want your honest opinion would you A. keep friends over one or B. have one good over *?

B, have one good friend!

Maria90 wrote:B, have one good friend!

glad I'm not the only one! i rather have 1 good friend then having 400 friends

Me too Steve, I would have none if it meant my happiness, no troubles or dramas, it's hard, good friends don't come easy anymore!

I only have one real friend anyway, and do tend to keep away from peeps who are not good for me,as its always me who ends up in a state.

I have enough stress at moment from others so would be B for me better to have one true friend

B for me too, I only have one true friend and that's my mum

I feel a lot better now thanks everyone i thought i was going loopy!!

  hope everything is okay!

i should of sorted this out an long time again i should never of let it drag on for so long!!

Steve wrote:I feel a lot better now :)thanks everyone i thought i was going loopy!!

Glad your feeling better  Really good friends are hard to come by, when I find one I hold onto them  

i thought i was the only person going who would choose B

i would go for b,one proper friend is worth so much more than 10 people you think are friends,i dont think people know how to be a true friend these days  

i hope you all are not saying b to make me feel better  

no not just you i would pick B also

I've thought hard about this because I just hate dramas.

There are Good Friends whom you know pretty well over a period of time, and "friends" who you pass the time of day with and who have not so far done any harm to you. Good Friends can normally be counted on the fingers of one hand - "friends" can number into hundreds.

My gut instinct would be to try sort things out personally with a Good Friend if that was the person who I thought was causing trouble and was puzzled by their actions.

If the troublemaker was a "friend", then I wouldn't have anything more to do with troublemaker.

Ultimately, it would all depend on the circumstances - so for me it would be hard to come flat down on A or B in a hypothetical situation.

Definitely B. There's enough negativity and drama in the world - who needs it in their inner circle!

Lynda wrote:I've thought hard about this because I just hate dramas.  

There are Good Friends whom you know pretty well over a period of time, and "friends" who you pass the time of day with and who have not so far done any harm to you.  Good Friends can normally be counted on the fingers of one hand - "friends" can number into hundreds.

My gut instinct would be to try sort things out personally with a Good Friend if that was the person who I thought was causing trouble and was puzzled by their actions.  

If the troublemaker was a "friend", then I wouldn't have anything more to do with troublemaker.

Ultimately, it would all depend on the circumstances - so for me it would be hard to come flat down on A or B in a hypothetical situation.

your friends who spend hour a day, years doing somethings, having his/her work put down is not going like it how friendly you are with scumbags after what they did & say, this friend is always going question if you are an real friend. and this friend will think you only sticking around becasue your friend dont have anywhere better to go

am i right or wrong this is why i did this poll.

i want your honest opinion would you A. keep friends over one or B. have one good over tw/ats?

B for me, but then I dont really do the best friend thing but definitely distance myself from negative * manipulative people

i'm starting to dislike good friend thing also

your friends who spend hour a day, years doing somethings, having his/her work put down is not going like it how friendly you are with scumbags after what they did & say, this friend is always going question if you are an real friend. and this friend will think you only sticking around becasue your friend dont have anywhere better to go

am i right or wrong this is why i did this poll.

i want your honest opinion would you A. keep friends over one or B. have one good over tw/ats?

Since you put it that way Steve, obviously I'd have to go for B.

But I would just say that sometimes a friend will tell me something that I don't like to hear, and yes it will hurt my feelings.  When this has happened to me I reflected on what I was told and when, on calm consideration, believed that there was probably an element of truth in it, I hope that I have learned to take on board what I was told and to moderate that particular behaviour, even when it has gone against my natural instincts - and bite my tongue.  If there have been angry exchanges between my friend and I, if both of us stand our ground and won't give an inch, then rather than lose a friend on a point of opinion, we have agreed to differ (respecting each other's right to hold their own personal point of view).  For an example, my sister and I will never agree in any respect about religion, but she's still my Best Friend - we just don't discuss religion.