do you think this is bad?

couples sharing facebook account because they both scared one or the other will be talking to someone else where the bloody trust? if you cant trust each other why be together for god sake!!

it like when you go out you get a some couple wont let their oh dance with other people if you dont trust dont be together it really the simple what is wrong with people today!!!

Trust is very important for sure fella. I think that sounds more like paranoia to me.

I have no trust at all, but then again I've no girlfriend so it sorta works out alright

so if you had girlfriend would you make her have the same facebook account with you?

if you went out would you be bothered if she dance with other people?

Def not mate. I wouldn't be that bad. I've always let girls just crack away at whatever they wanted, I don't see myself as in charge of anyone.

However this tends to end up with a bit of a balls up along the way

if someone get my trust they have till they break it and if they do i will never trust them again, i could be with someone that i couldn't 100% trust

I used to be a bit like it when I was younger, but had good cause as it turned out! Nowadays I trust my husband 100% and things like that dont bother me anymore. We do mellow with age lifes too short!

I think it's stupid. If you don't trust someone, what's the point? Love shouldn't be the only reason you're with someone, there has to be more to it to make a relationship work. And that, "I trust you, it's other people I don't trust" line is annoying too. If you trust the person you're with, you should feel comfortable if they went to a festival of naked models

If you don't trust someone fully it's just a waste of time IMO.

Sharing a facebook account will lead to nothing but trouble, not only do I not share a facebook account with my o/h, I also don't have her as a friend on there, and I also have her blocked, because I got tired of answering questions that were asked "just out of curiosity", and I got sick of seeing her moaning on there. She can/just as I can to her request the password to my email/facebook or the pin to my phone and freely look and dig as much as she wants, but if it ever got to the point where either of us requested the passwords/pin numbers it would be over, permanantly with immediate effect. I have nothing to hide and I'm confident my o/h doesn't but I take my right to privacy very seriously, one of the reasons there is very little on my facebook.

I have a severe lack of trust, hence why I am single, with good reason. When I doubted my ex of 6 years, I managed to unlock his phone, sorry if you think that's wrong and found photos of his ex, with dates, of them doing things as Jeeza would say 'anything in between a kiss and intercourse!'

janey wrote:

I have a severe lack of trust, hence why I am single, with good reason. When I doubted my ex of 6 years, I managed to unlock his phone, sorry if you think that's wrong and found photos of his ex, with dates, of them doing things as Jeeza would say 'anything in between a kiss and intercourse!'

Simular to me Janey it took me a long time to trust a man again! It truly is horrible

Yeah I'm another one who has learnt by bitter experience. I married very young and my OH was always very jealous about me and I put this down to insecurity. No fb in those days, but I definitely was not allowed to dance with anyone else! I trusted him 100% and he trusted me 0% (without any reason) and guess who it was who cheated throughout our marriage?

I agree with Steve, without trust on both sides there is no real relationship.

My best friends OH doesnt trust her one bit, always texting her when we go out, asking who shes with, shes not allowed to talk to any other guy, checks her fb etc - i dont understand how you can be with someone like that? No guy would dictate to me like that, thats for sure!

it's the society we live in to many people watch tv soap and think everyone want to cheat!!!

Cheating is seriously common though. I've hardly ever been in a relationship where there hasn't been some degree of cheating.

Society is

Agreed! And its when someone gets cheated on in previous relationships and they think their current partner is the same!

MatLogan wrote:Cheating is seriously common though. I've hardly ever been in a relationship where there hasn't been some degree of cheating.

Society is

Same here Mat always happens to me

EllieSmith wrote:Agreed! And its when someone gets cheated on in previous relationships and they think their current partner is the same!

And tbf it's normally right. In these cases somehow ya just know.

People can be so s*** sometimes

Cheating is common. Plus if you've been cheated on before, you may carry that around in your next relationship, which is understandable but stupid because then, if they are cheating, why be with them? And if they're not, you'll only end up with a messed up relationship because of the trust issues anyway.

Steve wrote:it's the society we live in to many people watch tv soap and think everyone want to cheat!!!

Well perhaps Steve. My "experience" started over 40 years ago so can't be blamed on soaps I'm afraid.

Now I'm older (much older) and wiser I just think that men are randy gits who will take whatever opportunity is presented to them.

40 years ago it wouldn't this bad, yes you may of got the odd couple nutjob nothing like to day

It near seems like it's the cool thing to do for some people though

My mate used to cheat on his gf all the time and he just thought it was agreat laugh.

MatLogan wrote:It near seems like it's the cool thing to do for some people though

My mate used to cheat on his gf all the time and he just thought it was agreat laugh.

Ill never understand that. Whats happened to people staying faithful

Steve wrote:40 years ago it wouldn't this bad, yes you may of got the odd couple nutjob nothing like to day

No way. Ages ago it was 100% normal, even expected, of men to cheat and for women to just put up with it. Women had to cheat in secret though. It's just that now it's more...I don't know, glorified I guess. But it's always been there.

It's glamourised imo too much. Just in the same way it's glamourised for people to be falling over drunk and fighting etc because there's funny shows on mtv that show it.

We were at Download 2010 and he cheated on his gf 3 times in 3 days, and had even organised one of them before we left.

I think it's totally stupid tbh.

IMO it a lot worse these days

You could very well be right Steve, thank the lord I'm now single.

And Ellie, I agree with you, this behaviour is intolerable. But maybe your best friend loves her OH so much and doesn't want to lose him that, much as she might hate his behaviour, she puts up with it. If I knew then what I know now I would never have put up with jealousy/distrustfulness, but we're all wise in hindsight.

nah very stupid, would never share one with the OH i can trust him no matter what.

Yes that is bad, ridiculous in fact! You've got to have trust, end off!!

Lynda wrote:You could very well be right Steve, thank the lord I'm now single.

And Ellie, I agree with you, this behaviour is intolerable. But maybe your best friend loves her OH so much and doesn't want to lose him that, much as she might hate his behaviour, she puts up with it. If I knew then what I know now I would never have put up with jealousy/distrustfulness, but we're all wise in hindsight.

She does Lynda, shes scared of losing him. Tbh id rather be single!

Me too Ellie!

Isn't it a pity though - I'm sure nothing could be better than a relationship between two people who love and trust each other, and would never betray that trust.

Lynda wrote:Isn't it a pity though - I'm sure nothing could be better than a relationship between two people who love and trust each other, and would never betray that trust.

Exactly. Some people obviously dont want this though for some bizarre reason!!

EllieSmith wrote:

Lynda wrote:Isn't it a pity though - I'm sure nothing could be better than a relationship between two people who love and trust each other, and would never betray that trust.

Exactly. Some people obviously dont want this though for some bizarre reason!!

Well I was hurt so much and didnt trust any man. I thought I would never find a good man til I met my husband and he to was cheated on and we were both single at the time. I dont think any relationship works when one or the other has cheated in the past as there is always that niggling doubt. I have as they say found my soulmate, best friend, lover and husband so there is hope!

Aw inez that is lovely Hope for us all!!

inez maria wrote: I dont think any relationship works when one or the other has cheated in the past as there is always that niggling doubt.

Good point Inez I think you are right there.

Sazzle wrote:Aw inez that is lovely Hope for us all!!

Here here!

EllieSmith wrote:

Exactly. Some people obviously dont want this though for some bizarre reason!!

I think what my ex said when he was FINALLY caught out (by the persistence and manipulating by his latest conquest) and I asked him why he he had done it, he said "because I thought I could get away with it" (which he had done for the previous 20 years, not with the same trollop, due to my naievety and trustfulness).

"I thought I could get away with it"

if someone cheated on me that would be it i wont be giving anybody another chance to cheat on me again!!

Steve wrote:if someone cheated on me that would be it i wont be giving anybody another chance to cheat on me again!!

I've done that before and it was all good for a few weeks then went back the way it was.

Best to just be a grumpy single old man like me I think

Steve wrote:if someone cheated on me that would be it i wont be giving anybody another chance to cheat on me again!!

Janey wouldnt Steve

Agreed. I believe in second chances but not for something like this. I did take an ex back after he cheated but he carried on with the same girl - lesson learnt

MatLogan wrote:

Steve wrote:if someone cheated on me that would be it i wont be giving anybody another chance to cheat on me again!!

I've done that before and it was all good for a few weeks then went back the way it was.

Best to just be a grumpy single old man like me I think

Less of the old Mat

I could never trust someone again after they'd cheated so that would that!! No trust no relationship IMO !!

Inez - I am so happy for you - there are some good blokes out there (so I am told) and I'm glad for you that you found one.

And Steve, once bitten twice shy does apply here, unfortunately. I would never be so trusting again.

I'm feeling old these days tbh Inez.

I used to live with a girl. I'd been going out with her for a few years and she said about getting a house. So after a bit of looking around I bought a house for us both. I told her I was away to sign for the house and she threw her toys out the pram because she wanted her name on the mortgage. But I was hardly gonna buy a house and put it in someones name, so I said because I'm paying for everything I'm signing alone.

She changed that day, and one day I came home and she'd gutted the whole house and had stolen everything. Only wanted her name on the mortgage so she could break up and take the money.

One of the many reasons why I feel old haha.

MatLogan wrote:I'm feeling old these days tbh Inez.

I used to live with a girl. I'd been going out with her for a few years and she said about getting a house. So after a bit of looking around I bought a house for us both. I told her I was away to sign for the house and she threw her toys out the pram because she wanted her name on the mortgage. But I was hardly gonna buy a house and put it in someones name, so I said because I'm paying for everything I'm signing alone.

She changed that day, and one day I came home and she'd gutted the whole house and had stolen everything. Only wanted her name on the mortgage so she could break up and take the money.

One of the many reasons why I feel old haha.

Blimey youre well shot of her Mat!

Yep, it's all part of learning.

No the feeling Mat! 2 bedroom house, and I was one that walked with the clothes I was wearing.......