PLEASE HELP!

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hey all,
me and the OH have had many arguments over chaos
now shes telling me i have to get rid of him as were expecting and she doesnt trust staffies :'( im not getting rid of him i just think its her hormones or something :S she saying she will never trust him around a baby or anything what can i do to change her mind?

Omg heartbreaking.

I can see where she's coming from. When me and my hubby were discussing getting a dog I originally wanted a Boston terrier but hubby wanted a staffy.
I point blank said no Fecking way are we getting a staffy !
Anyway, it wasn't till I started researching the breed that my eyes were opened to the breed, not all the media negativity.
To be honest I was shocked at the bad rap staffys had gotten.

So anyway, we got our first staffy Diesel, fell in love and just under a year later got Tank. They are my life. We have 4 kids, all school age, youngest is 5.
They adore the dogs, they are all best buds, no matter what - u can depend on a staffy.
Sure the puppy months are pretty sucky but a little effort in training, consistency with boundaries and you will raise a well mannored dog who will be you kids best bud.
I hope your OH reconsiders, it's very easy to feel protective and basically want everything to be perfect , specially with a first born. Unruly pups can be a hinderance !
I hope you can compromise at least, if u put the effort into training him, making him a great family asset that can grow with your baby.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_F95a3sEN9w

appollo13102000 wrote:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_F95a3sEN9w

Love the way Ruby keeps looking round to make sure he's still following!

Really sad to see this, my parents kept Staffordshire Bull Terriers with us kids from the age of 3 and they were brilliant family pets, one of the best breeds around for children in fact! And the majority of my friends growing up kept staffs too.. It does sound like her head is probably all over the place, but do you have any idea how many staffs are already in need of homes?!

I don't mean to sound rude, and of course really it is none of my business, but you have posted here asking for advice; were you not planning to have a baby a few months ago when you got Chaos, or was there no planning into getting a dog of breed that you both like and feel comfortable with? Is there no way that she will open her mind and at least learn about the breed before flying off the handle and telling you to "get rid of him." It makes no sense to me and is heartbreaking into seeing yet another staff in need of a home simply through lack of knowledge. It sounds like she's going to win this "argument," so personally I would re-home him to a forever home now where he will grow old, whilst he's still of an age that he's attractive to people; if he gets much older he'll lose his appeal!

Jackieb wrote:Omg heartbreaking.

I can see where she's coming from. When me and my hubby were discussing getting a dog I originally wanted a Boston terrier but hubby wanted a staffy.
I point blank said no Fecking way are we getting a staffy !
Anyway, it wasn't till I started researching the breed that my eyes were opened to the breed, not all the media negativity.
To be honest I was shocked at the bad rap staffys had gotten.

So anyway, we got our first staffy Diesel, fell in love and just under a year later got Tank. They are my life. We have 4 kids, all school age, youngest is 5.
They adore the dogs, they are all best buds, no matter what - u can depend on a staffy.
Sure the puppy months are pretty sucky but a little effort in training, consistency with boundaries and you will raise a well mannored dog who will be you kids best bud.
I hope your OH reconsiders, it's very easy to feel protective and basically want everything to be perfect , specially with a first born. Unruly pups can be a hinderance !
I hope you can compromise at least, if u put the effort into training him, making him a great family asset that can grow with your baby.

Maybe you could show your OH this post

I loved the video
It's funny, when me or OH has Kenny on the lead, he pulls, when my mates 7 year old holds the lead, he doesnt. It's great how they know
Edit to add above

Caryll wrote:Any chance you can get your oh to join here and have a (calm) discussion about staffords & babies/children?

she was on here just doesnt come on any more :s
i talked her round today and chaos it STAYING on 1 condition that i let her take over in training him but i still do the rest play cuddle walk run feed and the rest <3

WOW - wonderful news that you are keeping Chaos. I'm just amazed that she wants to take over the training - doesn't she trust you with that? Glad to hear that you're taking the rest of the responsibility off her plate though, I reckon she has more than enough to deal with as it is.

Good Luck!

Great news

That's wonderful news

Good to hear. At the end of the day we are all here ready n willing to give support n advise as n when needed x

Well done, pleased to hear that negotiations have gone well for you,

Great News

yay for Chaos!

bainzy1591 wrote:
i talked her round today and chaos it STAYING on 1 condition that i let her take over in training him but i still do the rest play cuddle walk run feed and the rest <3

That's a great idea - just remember to tell her that if she has any problems, come and ask here!

thanks every one

Brilliant news I think her doing the training with him might help too, might give her more confidence in him.

Thats great news.