Why he does it only to me?

Hi all again.
Debo in nearly 19weeks,he's doing well with his training,he knows few tricks. But he can be real pain for me. He listen to my husband no problem,only sometime he gives him hard time with recall. But with me .... When I say "no" to him ,he barks back,when I say " no" and point finger at him - he push my finger away with his paw, he seems to be mare nippy with me.He's fine with recall, I can get his attention on the walk,he does all his comends for ,so it's no all bad. And I do spend time with him,I feed him,walk him ,play with him,teach him... So way? Does he think that I'm the weakest one and keep trying me? Or I'm going to have problems with him forever? I know that shouting doesn't do anything but sometimes I can't stop myself.

Don't point your finger at him. It won't mean anything to him other than an invitation to play!

Instead of telling him "no" whenever he does something wrong, try to distract him with something else to do, like "Sit" or "Come". Then quiet praise & maybe a small treat. That way you'll be ignoring the bad behaviour & rewarding the good. Dogs soon learn that certain behaviours get him nothing whilst others get him praise & food.

Agree with Caryll. They will act differently towards different people. I had problems with Suki for a little while becuase I was doing too much rough play and not enough training/alking/feeding.

Some dogs only have one master. Mine loves my husband as much as he loves me, but he won't listen to my husband. If my husband tells him to do something, even something simple like lay down, Charlie will just sit there and look at him. If I tell him to do something, he does it immediately. Its not as if my husband doesn't do anything with him, he feeds him, walks him sometimes, plays with him, and Charlie adores him, he just doesn't have the same respect for him as he does for me (unless Dan's offering him a treat!)

It really bugs my husband sometimes, but its been that way since Charlie was 8 weeks old, we've never been able to change it. It could be the same for you. Perhaps Debo only has one master and that's your husband. But that doesn't mean that he should be playing up for you. Charlie won't do what my husband tells him, but he's still a good boy for him 99% of the time. But Debo is still very young, certain behaviours are to be expected for a while yet.

As said I think it's quite common for them to treat different people differently...
Mia always cuddles me first thing in the morning, completely ignoring my hubby!!
She plays really rough with him and it's now a game for him to tell her no and point his finger, she gets really excited and barks and plays!!
She won't play like this with me tho, and I also have to be the one that steps in and breaks up the rough play !

Say she nips you, I would give a firm no and put her straight outside of the room/in her bed for a few minutes, repeat everytime she nips and she will learn!!

Everyone in the home who has contact with your dog needs to be on the same page regarding discipline and rules. It would also not hurt if you handled your dog form a position of calm confidence. Perhaps your anxiety from anticipation is adding to your difficulties

I'm not being easy on him when he's bad,always put him in the right place when he does something bad,so it' not like he can get away with things. Maybe I have to change my attitude , stop worrying that he won't listen to me again.

He hasn't been like that before .I've noticed changes since I've started morning shifts ( like 2 weeks ago ),so I don't spend that much time with him. Do you think that might be the problem as well.? Next week I'm off for 3 weeks si he will have me back

jola139 wrote: Maybe I have to change my attitude , stop worrying that he won't listen to me again.

That's often what it takes. Without realising it you're anticipating him being naughty & he'll pick up on your anxiety. Try taking some deep breaths and make your voice steady but firm. Don't shout & don't wave your arms or fingers around. I know it's easier said than done, but once you've got the hang of it, it'll all become much easier!

Hi,all starts to improve. I wonder if his behaviour got something to do with me working different hours for last 2 weeks and spendig enough time with him? At the moment I'm on holiday so he has me 24h and all that stoped. Less barking,less bitting on the lead. But it didn't stop by itself,I did lots of work. i think for the barking he's getting the " shhh" command and for the lead bitting-everytime he goes for it, I take treat out ( just to get his attention,not giving it to him),ask to sit and down,wait few seconds and starts to walk. When he's good I prise him. He still try to go for a lead but " no" works most of the time. So I'm hopping it will keep improving and when I'm back to work won't take step back.

jola139 wrote:Hi,all starts to improve. I wonder if his behaviour got something to do with me working different hours for last 2 weeks and spendig enough time with him?

I think you're doing yourself a disservice! I think he's just responding to your consistent but firm training, so well done!

Some pups just take a little longer to get there than others - he's still a baby, so you're doing really well with him.

Thank you,I think I needed someone to tell me that instead of " you being to soft on him"

They all need a little softness sometimes!

Pleased to hear that it is going well.

Glad to hear that things are improving. Keep up the good work!